LIKING VS. LIKE LIKING VS. NOT LIKING VS. DISLIKING

NOTE:
THIS IS OUR 420TH POST, AND SINCE WE ARE ALL STONERS IN ONE WAY OR ANOTHER, HOORAY

B. McGILLICUDDY

There is distance and then there is compatibility and then there is readability and then there is a strange place where all of them meet and wonder what the fuck they're doing together. This is the foundation for all human connection, and somehow it always happens differently for everyone. I can't imagine or understand or come to a concrete conclusion about my opinions on 'the "like" spectrum' but I suppose if I had to 'say something about it' I would just stamp 'FLAWED' on 'human interaction in general' and then I'd 'run with' the 'chaos'.

I 'like' a lot of people. But probably no more than I 'not like'. And I could probably say the same but in lesser quantities about the people I 'like like' and 'dislike', but I don't know what any of that means at all. I know a thing or two about psychology and anthropology and chemistry, but that doesn't make me a relationship genius, or even remotely perceptive of it, but also maybe I'm 'in the throes'. Damn.

I think what makes people compatible is their desperation. I think that if you aren't desperate, the likelihood that you will really value someone drops very low. But also I think emotional conditioning that is founded on the belief that you are desperate, turns into a habit, or fear, or just a strong emotion in general, and makes you 'work things out' or 'have break-up/make-up sex' to signify your 'need' for each other.

Readability is interesting, because I think this is a primary attribute of friendship. It is about being able to pick up on changes in a person and react accordingly to them. It is also important when you 'like like' someone to have readability, because the very act of 'like liking' shuts down most of this function, and so what little inkling is left is basically what you have to go with until you 'feel comfortable around each other'.

The closer in general proximity you are to a person, the more likely it is that you will hook up at some point, supposedly. I tend to think that if you live within a couple of block from each other you run the risk of family/neighbors finding out, and so you don't do it. But just after a couple of blocks, from there to twenty miles, it seems like physically, the potential for hooking up/dating/screwing-around becomes nearly irresistible if you 'like'-to-'like like' someone. And then also, there is the factor of 'time vs. distance', which contributes to 'the dance' or how far you 'feel' from a person based on how long you've been away from them, and the level of excitement that you feel when you are reunited.

I really don't have any idea what I'm talking about at all. I think I might be 'highly irrationally attracted to someone' right now, and my brain is shutting down as a defensive measure. Damn.

B. McGILLICUDDY